Being a woman is tough. We judge each other (and ourselves) on everything from career choices, relationships, how we raise our children, weight, education… the list goes on. I’m guilty. We all are. We’re hard on ourselves and judge one another accordingly. I do not want my niece and future children growing up in a world where we so harshly judge one another. She has given me a new perspective on how I view and treat others, especially women. I slut-shame. I have called other women fat, lazy, and stupid. I have called other women garbage. I’m not proud. I made these claims against women whether I knew their story or not. Either way, it says much more about who I am as a person than it does them. My goal is to give everyone a break and stop the judgmental attacks. And I need to make a conscious effort to talk positively around my niece: confidently about her, about others, and about myself. It’s hard at times, but she is a sponge and drinks in what we say like water. I do not want her mimicking my bad behavior or actions. So, instead of judging the woman schlepping three kids around the grocery store because she’s wearing sweatpants and taking too long in the checkout line, I need to give her a friendly smile. In turn, maybe she won’t tell her friends about the sweaty, irritated, stiletto-wearing witch she saw buying booze at noon on a Tuesday. We’re all women and we’re all fighting a battle. Attacking one another won’t make life any easier. Let’s stick together.