Today I’m discussing some lessons I’ve learned the hard way. Getting older is a beautiful thing, but it also comes with surprises. Here are a few:
1. It’s difficult to make new friends and stay close to old friends. I was in a sorority and had a million girlfriends in college. It’s not that easy in the real world. I moved away from home, work in a male-dominated field, and we rarely go out. I do not know how to make friends as an adult. How do I ask someone to be my friend without sounding like a creep and/or like I’m asking them on a date? It’s also hard to maintain friendships. None of my close friends live in Frankfort. Throw in jobs, spouses, children, and life… Who has the time? It was much easier when everyone lived in the same house!
2. Your tastes in drinks will change. When I was in college and my early 20s, I drank a vodka called Dark Eyes. It cost $1.00 a pint. Think about that. I’m certain my liver would explode if I even smelled now…
3. And your hangovers will kill you. Remember those marathon drinking nights at the bar? You can’t do that anymore. You have responsibilities that aren’t conducive to an entire day eating greasy food and napping. Now I drink a couple of glasses of wine and struggle getting out of bed in the morning.
4. You will still have breakouts, and, as a bonus- signs of aging. The world is a cruel, cruel place. Your face is stuck in purgatory between your teenage self and your mom.
5. You may not have figured out what you want to be when you grow up. I thought I would have the same job my entire career. Since college, I’ve worked in politics, banking, and writing/technology.
I may never retire.
However, I have learned to adapt and realized that you’re never really done finding yourself. Life is a lot less boring that way.
What lessons have you learned?