Alternate title: why I won’t read your “why I won’t read your blog” posts.
Let me get this out of the way first- the fact that I’m even writing this post contradicts everything I’m going to say. YOU SHOULD WRITE WHAT YOU WANT. I’ve written on this topic before. Write what makes you happy and what gets you thinking. This is my opinion and I am not calling out anyone specifically- I think this is a standard topic in the blog world and one that blows my mind. The irony of this question is not lost on me, but, are we so desperate for content that we’ll write a post centered around shitting all over what someone else has done?
I think it’s awesome when bloggers give tips. I am as clueless as anyone when it comes to HTML, Photoshop, and overall inspiration. And I love prompts because sometimes we all need a little nudge and it’s interesting to read different perspectives on a topic (NOTE: don’t forget our Beautiful Mess linkup Monday!). But you know what I don’t love? When we try to tell others we won’t read their blog or follow them on social media for some bullshit reason. We’re alienating a lot of smart, creative, amazing women because they’re afraid that what they have to say doesn’t matter.
Some of these posts are super helpful- I read the “why no one is coming to your blog” posts because they are usually full of useful advice like how you should comment on and interact with other blogs (the best tip ever) and how to make your space more welcoming and visually appealing. As I was debating publishing this post, Helene wrote a fantastic piece about things that are hurting your blog and I couldn’t agree more. The purpose is to have people read it, right?
But here’s my point: there is an audience out there for every type of content and every type of blogger. Saying you won’t read a blog because you don’t like the content is irrelevant to me. FIND ANOTHER BLOG. Perhaps the content doesn’t interest you, but I guarantee it will make the day of someone else. I’m not a mother but that doesn’t mean I don’t enjoy reading blogs about motherhood from time to time. I’m not going to pay $500 for a blouse but I can likely apply your fashion tips to fit my budget. I will (probably) never live in China but that doesn’t mean I don’t find your tales of life as an expat interesting! I’m not a big wedding gal but I still love reading your beautiful wedding-themed posts. And even if I hated all of the aforementioned topics, that doesn’t mean that EVERYONE feels the same. There are mothers who need advice, women who can and will spend $500 on a shirt, people who live far from home who need to know they’re not alone, and clueless brides-to-be who could use a little direction. Maybe you don’t like makeup but you like seeing me make an ass out of myself when I write posts like this?
Blogging is a hobby for me and when I take it too seriously I reevaluate. It will never be my full-time job. And I don’t need my hobby critiqued. I think it’s awesome that people want to read it mainly because I love the relationship aspect and being challenged in my writing and makeup abilities. It’s enabled me to acquire new skills and friends and ways of thinking. But I have less anxiety when turning in a huge work project than when I share a post.
At the end of the day, we’re all taking a risk by hitting “publish.” What you share on the internet lasts forever- the good and the bad. Putting yourself out there is a beautiful thing. Maybe you don’t think my content is “sharable” but it’s what I enjoy and one of the best tips I ever received about blogging was to remain true to myself. And I’ll do just that.