Hi there lovelies xx My name is Sarah Elizabeth, and I write over at SedivaAbroad.com. Lindsay was sweet enough to share her space and all of you with me today to talk about one of my favorite topics… how to feel pretty when you’re having one of those crappy, ugly days.
Some days I wake up and feel like singing a sweet song with the birds at my window. Other days I’m more like “the clean-the-toilet-by-eating-the-nastiness rats are my best friends today”.
You know what I’m talking about right? I’m not crazy and weird and alone in having really awesome days where I feel like I lost twenty pounds and could win Miss Universe (on purpose!) and then other days where I can’t even handle putting on real clothes because everything makes me look ridiculous. We all have days like both, and that’s just the way it is. Sometimes you feel beautiful, and sometimes you don’t. But I suppose the real truth is this. You’re beautiful all the time, crappy day or not.
We’re not all idealistically drop-dead-gorgeous, even on a daily basis. I know that. But you are beautiful – inside and out, to be really cliche – and that doesn’t change from day to day, no matter how you feel. Your essentials – who are you, how you look, your inner and outer beauty – don’t change so rapidly. You’re not so drastically different than you were yesterday, even if you’re having the crappiest, ugliest day and feel like you deserve nothing better than yoga pants and a third cookie. Trust that you are as pretty and sweet and happy and good and blessed and generous and everything else as you were yesterday. You just don’t feel like it. And feeling is definitely not the most important thing.
However, not feeling it still sucks. Crappy days suck, and sometimes it feels like there’s no way out. Our feelings so often become our reality, just as our thoughts do, and so even though you probably have eight people in the mall telling you how gorgeous you look in that dress you’re trying on, if you don’t feel it, you could easily be pulling yourself even further into your crappy day. Feeling pretty on a crappy day is totally possible, but you’re going to have to work a little harder at it than you do when you’re having one of your “I’m so GORGEOUS” days. Own your feelings and you’ll be able to both accept them and change them. But in case you need a little bit more of a step-by-step instead of just plain lofty inspiration, here are a few ideas!
Wake up slowly, but still actually get up.
On my kick-ass days, I jump out of bed, super excited to get work done and wear a killer outfit and all sorts of boss babe stuff. But those days aren’t every day, and I’ll freely admit that. Sometimes on crappy days, what you really need is a treat, which is maybe why you keep eating those cookies (stop, by the way!). So to treat yourself and give yourself a little break, take your time waking up. Stay in bed until you’re fully awake, then mozy down and get some coffee. But still get up. Still wake up, show up, do something to take care of yourself. If you can’t do it yourself, ask for help. Text the boyf, call your mom, meet a friend. Take care of yourself and don’t just let your day slip away, and you’ll feel better for it. But try to give yourself a break as well.
Keep a compliments folder.
Sometimes friends will say really nice things unexpectedly. Sometimes your dad will text you the sweetest little thing. Sometimes you’re boyfriend will randomly write you an adorable note. Keep a folder on your computer or your phone or even on your desk as a collection of all the great little compliments people have shared with you, and revisit them on your crappy day. It’s hard – I know – it’s really hard to remember that your crappy day isn’t the culmination of everything that is wrong with you and your life. Remember that there are still a lot of people who care about you and think you’re doing great. Remind yourself.
Definitely one of the hardest things to do when you’re having a crappy, ugly day, but exercise will make you feel better, and you know it’s true! A long slow walk outside, a small bit of stretching or yoga in your bedroom with some Frank Sinatra, or a good sweat session in the gym to get out of your head. Anything that gets you focused on something besides a) how ugly your day is, b) how much work you should be doing that you’re feeling guilty about, and c) how uncomfortable you are in your own skin is a good thing. And exercise definitely gets you in a rhythmic space that is totally beyond your stressful job, your ugly feelings, and everything else.
Put on some lipstick.
Throw your hair in a pony, put on your lipstick, and handle it. Ever heard of that phrase (or any of its many variations)? Well, I think it works. Like big time. It’s preaching a “crappy day? take it one step at a time, and you got this, girl” mentality. My routine for a crappy day is concealer, pencil (as eyeliner and eyebrows), mascara, and lipstick. But your routine could be as simple as brushing your hair. Whatever little beauty routine you can put together to get yourself to where you’re feeling comfortable and confident and slightly put together (you know you always feel worse when you give yourself permission to run errands in sweatpants and a Shang bun). You’ll feel much better for the small bit of effort you put into taking care of yourself.
Get outside and connect.
See a friend, talk on the phone, say hi to the checkout lady. Connection with other people is super important to get you feeling like a human being again. On crappy days, we’re really just stuck in our own heads, so getting outside of them helps us connect with the world again, and remember that you’re as beautiful to the world as you were yesterday, despite your crappy day.
Thanks so much to Lindsay and all of you for having me xx I’d love to see you over at SedivaAbroad.com for more inspiration xx