How was your weekend? The weather was amazing Friday and Saturday. Friday night we met my family for dinner at a restaurant in Lexington called Pies & Pints. It was such a cool location and the pizza and beer were delicious! We ended the night with a trip to Target where I proceeded to buy the most boring stuff ever: cleaning products! Saturday we woke up and decided to enjoy the spring-like temperatures. We drove to Louisville, walked 3 miles, then met friends for lunch and drinks on a patio. Everyone in Louisville had the same idea we did, but we still had a great time! Outdoor drinking season is just around the corner, friends!
I thought of writing about how I was denied Sudafed again yesterday or other negative thoughts (like Donald Trump), but, really, who wants to start Monday on that note? One of the things we’ve asked ourselves a lot lately is: does it bring you joy? And, honestly, talking about Sudafed and how short the weekend is and the fact that winter is back does NOT bring me joy. So on we go.
I had convinced myself to stay in this weekend and work on blog things and do a little job searching but the opportunity to enjoy a beautiful, unseasonable weekend won my heart instead. And I’d say life has been like that a lot lately: choosing to enjoy myself instead of spending time doing what I THINK I’m supposed to be doing. The house will get clean (or it won’t). The blog post will get written. The clothes will get washed. Those chores are always there. Sunny, 70 degree February days aren’t.
When we decided to declutter the house earlier this year (a work in progress) we would ask one another if certain items brought us joy- if it didn’t, it was time to move on. You cannot hang on to things that don’t spark that inside you. And that can be applied to everything in life: does your work bring you joy? The people in your life? Your home? Your hobbies? If not, it’s time to find something that does. Or that will.
We experience a lot of uncontrollable, non-joyous events in our lives: death of loved ones, tragedy, times of need, loss of jobs, loss of friends, loss of love. It comes with the territory. But those in-between times should be filled with joy and happiness and celebration. Sometimes you have to dig deep and take a monumental risk in order to find joy, but, without it, is life really worth living?
If you’re not happy at work, you need to make a change. If your relationship with your significant other, a friend, or a family member doesn’t bring you joy, it’s time to cut ties. None of us can experience happiness 100% of the time: there are times of stress and hurt and worry and sickness and long waits between paychecks, but we should absolutely experience it more than dread and regret. And no one can find it for you- it’s something you must do yourself and it’s something that is necessary to thrive. The most brave and adult thing a person can do is to allow yourself to seek and live a life of unadulterated joy.
What are your thoughts on this?