How was your weekend? We went on a date Friday night and spent Saturday working and catching up around the house. Sunday was gorgeous and we woke up hoping to go for a hike and lunch, but my shower faucet started leaking and we had to turn off all the water in the house in order to fix it. Things went downhill from there. But. Today is a new day and I’m determined to make it a great week!
Truth time: I’m hard on women. I’m a no-nonsense, aggressive firecracker and sometimes I’m not the friendliest. I’m easily annoyed. I think it comes from everyone being so hard on us… There’s always much more expected from women than from men, and I project that idea of perfection on others. It’s as if I expect less from men (not that this is the way I was raised!). I hold us to a higher standard. I’m a work in progress.
It’s never okay to be a “mean girl”, but once you reach a certain age, it’s disgusting. I’ve noticed lots of this in the blog world lately. Perhaps it’s always been there. But the saltiness and snarkiness and hatefulness has exploded. I have a good sense of humor and am not easily offended. I don’t take myself too seriously, and find it charming when others do the same. Life is better with laughter! But, are they laughing with us… or at us?
One thing that keeps me from putting myself out there is the fear of judgment. Of ridicule. Of someone shitting all over my dream and hard work. It’s bad enough that there are sites devoted to this kind of thing, but now we have fellow bloggers writing mean posts about others? We’re all trying to work and make money and live the happiest life possible. At the end of the day, we all have mortgages or rent and student loans and car payments and medical bills. And some days your shower starts leaking or the dryer blows up or you crash your car into the garage or you lose your job and it would be so nice if members of your own sex just gave you a smidge of grace. Because no matter how we make our money, whether it’s by sharing a selfie on Instagram that required 5 hours of prep time, or it’s writing technical documentation, or it’s flipping burgers or serving drinks or taking care of your home or children (or all of the above!), we could ALL use more grace and support and understanding.
I won’t belabor the point. It’s Monday and we all know it’s tough. But I truly feel our treatment towards each other is one of the things that holds us back in life. We need each other. No one can support a woman like another woman.
What are your thoughts? Have you noticed a shift in the blog world lately?