J and I have lived together 5 years. We have seen some shit. Generally the people you love the most see the worst, most unfiltered version of you, right? He has witnessed a horrendous stomach virus and my never-ending bronchitis last winter. Once a month, he’s victim of my wrath while I sit with a heating pad shoved down my pants. He’s there after my worst work days when I want to punch the next person who speaks to me (I don’t). It ain’t always pretty. But it’s always real.
Our family and friends settle for rushed texts and distracted conversation. They deal with garbage moods and stress and unspeakable moments. It works both ways. Unfortunately, it comes with the territory.
It’s impossible to hide these parts of yourself: the ugly, the sick, the hateful, the hangry. But we’re giving strangers the BEST versions of ourselves online: the pics that have been doctored. The made beds. Fresh flowers. Crisp, clean backgrounds. The positivity. Filtered, perfectly-lit selfies. We leave nice comments and try to build others up. But it’s mostly reserved for people we don’t know. They’re getting our best, while the people we love are often getting our worst.
I am guilty of it. But here’s a challenge for me and everyone out there with this struggle: give those who love you hardest your best this week (and beyond). Reserve the energy you’d use styling a picture into doing something for a loved one. Send a sweet letter or gift to someone who needs a lift. Make a fancy dinner for your spouse. Call your grandparent(s). Have lunch with a girlfriend or you momma. Plan something special for your Dad for Father’s Day. This isn’t a call for recognition or to start sharing your worst online: it’s a call to show your best to those in your real life. Because they need the love, too.Share your best with everyone. Click To Tweet