I wrote a draft of this post a couple of weeks ago when I was doing a little soul-searching. Aren’t we always? I’m struggling with creativity and writing lately – I think it’s summer.
How many of you are living the life you imagined? I will be honest: my world does not look the way I thought it would. It’s better in some ways! I went to college with the intention of going to law school… and, when it came time to apply my senior year, I realized it wasn’t want I wanted after all. That was scary. I’d worked my entire life for that one thing. Instead, I found my way to writing: my actual passion.
It hasn’t been easy.
But life doesn’t always give you a choice: sometimes you have to jump in. And sometimes you have dreams and goals and never see them come to fruition. Maybe you find yourself single and childless at 40 after a years-long relationship. Maybe you think you’ll never get divorced, but the love of your life decides otherwise. Maybe you thought you’d have lots of babies, but you and your spouse cannot conceive. Maybe law school didn’t turn out or you lost your dream job. Maybe you fall out of love, or you fall ill, or lose your best friend. Life does not care about our plans. There will be kinks and surprises and joy and heartbreak. And it’s often tougher than we expected. Even during those times, we must fight for the good. Get rid of the rest.
And when life doesn’t go the way you imagined, enjoy the good times. The happy times of endless laughter and joy. The days spent in the pool eating Popsicles. Driving with the windows down. The all-night gab sessions with a girlfriend or sister. A family vacation. A cold beer. The first crisp morning of fall. A warm hot toddy. Your grandmother’s chocolate cake. Christmas morning. Good lovin’.
That’s what you need to cling to when things go to hell. Because they will. You are allowed to cry and wail. You are allowed to ask “why not me?” You are allowed to feel like shit. You are allowed to not be fine. But, as my sweet niece says, “only a little bit.” You can’t – you mustn’t- let it consume you. Find a way out. Find your grit. Find your passion. Because I do not want to stand before God one day and ask for forgiveness for not living my life.
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