Like many of you, I watched the Chelsea Handler video about dealing with jealousy and supporting other women: blowing out someone else’s candles will not make yours shine brighter.
I think we’ve all had that those moments – the ones where you’re really struggling – and a friend who has been with her partner for six weeks gets engaged. Or someone gets a promotion after you’ve busted your ass at work for years. Or someone gets pregnant easily after you’ve exhausted all of your options. Someone’s house is bigger or cleaner or they have a smaller ass and bigger boobs and throw Pinterest-worthy parties and never drink too much and aren’t in debt and can resist the temptation of chocolate cake.
How do you get past it? I don’t know. Maybe you drink too much Pinot and give a speech to “blessings” a la’ Dorinda (if you watch RHONY, we should discuss that scene). I admit I’ve taken the Dorinda path in the past. Or worse. But. We’re all in this together. We all have strengths. We all have a trait or a talent that makes us shine.
This week, think about what you can share with the world. Tap into what makes you great. And then take some time to genuinely support another. You never know who you’ll meet or what you’ll learn. We need to lean on others. No one becomes successful by themselves: it takes a team and lots of support.
I think about all the time I’ve wasted shitting on the life of other women out of pure jealousy. And for what? It didn’t help me lose weight or break into the freelance world or make more money or have a cleaner house. It was a black hole of garbage and negativity. It’s better to channel that energy into something positive.
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