I’ve been riding the negativity train lately. I am the human personification of Grumpy Cat. I’m always sarcastic and snarky and mouthy. Those things will never change. But I’ve been having dark thoughts. Not “I’m going to murder everyone within my general vicinity thoughts” but “why does everything happen to me why is it so hot can’t the boob sweat stop why haven’t we moved our house is a disaster why does this town smell like sewer please don’t talk to me what is life” thoughts. I am a treat.
I’ve tried my usual “get out of a funk” steps: day drinking. Shopping. Exercising. Being nice to people even when they’re assholes. You know. My go-to remedies. But nothing worked. Then I decided to start taking actionable steps on clawing my way out of this mood. That way of thinking led me down an “inspiration board” rabbit hole.
Simply thinking of what I wanted to add to my inspiration board lifted my spirits. What do I want? How do I get there? What do I want my life to look like in five years? How do I want to be treated? All of those questions shifted my focus from “everything is garbage” to “what can YOU do to accomplish your goals?” And then I started examining the way I talked to people: what would happen if I became intentional with my speech? Turned an instinctual (for me) negative reaction into a positive response? What if, instead of replying “it must be nice!” to J’s afternoon off, I said, “you deserve it!” because it’s true and I’m just pissed to be stuck inside a dark office all day?
The art of thinking positive thoughts takes practice and I don’t expect to completely change my outlook overnight. But until then, you can find me filling my mental inspiration board with all the good things. Life is what we make it and that’s not easy for this hard-headed pessimist to accept. But you know what makes life even harder? A shitty attitude.
Do you have an inspiration board? What are your tips on thinking good thoughts?