Last week was plagued with sadness and disappointment for me, as I’m sure it was for many of you. But it’s a new week. It’s Christmastime. I was thankfully off Friday and we spent the day at Churchill Downs. It was a gorgeous afternoon. We watched UK’s first basketball game of the season. Saturday we met my family for dinner and celebrated my dad’s birthday. I bought a ton of Christmas decorations at Target. Sunday was spent cleaning and doing laundry and watching football. It was a glorious and much-needed weekend before a bustling week ahead.
I stepped back from blogging and social media and thought a lot about life the past few days. We’re in desperate need of some positive vibes, and here’s what I think we can do to kick ass this week:
Do what makes you happy. To me that looked like putting up Christmas decorations this weekend. I still love and celebrate Thanksgiving, but Christmas is a magical time and isn’t here for long. And last year I was sick during the entire season and never decorated my tree. This year I want to savor it. What’s happiness look like to you? Do it. We need to stop having such strong opinions on how others live their lives.
Do something nice for someone else. I’ve been so down but little acts of kindness have significantly (and perhaps selfishly) improved my mood. I picked up Starbucks gift cards for a couple of coworkers. Bought a set of Christmas lights for a coworker’s cubicle (just looking at his Halloween lights made me happy this year). Sometimes a person needs to hear they’re appreciated. A little note or word of encouragement goes a long way. Donate your time and/or money to organizations that could use it. Let people know you’re there.
Remember that other women are not your enemy. I’ve spent too much time around women who thought there was only one seat at the table. There isn’t. You’re going to have to fight a lot harder than a man for it. But fight. And help your fellow woman fight, too. It’s worth it. We’re better together.
Remember that you’re not entitled to shit. We all work hard and get up and try to be good people. You’ve got to do MORE. So you’ve been through hard times? Welcome to life. It’s not for the weak and will not give you breaks just because you think you deserve it.
Stop waiting for good things: make them happen yourself. Kelly from Six One Six blog shared this quote on Instagram last week and it hasn’t been off my mind: “I stopped waiting for the light at the end of the tunnel and lit that bitch up myself.” Strong but effective language. I make excuses for why things aren’t going my way, but at the end of the day, it’s because of decisions I’ve made. It’s because I haven’t worked hard enough. It’s because I haven’t tried hard enough. Spent too much money. Slept in too late. Ate too much pizza. Procrastinated. While I’ve been sitting on the couch bitching about my life, someone else has been out there doing something about theirs.
Give yourself a break. Even with everything I’ve said above, sometimes all you can do is step back and reset. Take a nap. Take a mental health day. Pick up a book instead of turning on your computer after work. Stay off social media. Have a date night during the week. Sleep in. Take a bath. Do some yoga. Breathe. You’re going to be alright.
Let’s hit the ground running. What are you going to do to kick ass this week?