Hello, friends. I hope you had the merriest Christmas and enjoyed time with your loved ones! We’re on the beach (God-willing) and will be back with a Christmas recap next week.
2016 was tough on many of us. Hell, it was tough on the world. But we’re days away from 2017 – here’s what I wish for us all in the new year:
Remember that most of what people say about your life is a reflection of them, not you. Some people are garbage and will try their best to take you down with them. Don’t let it happen.
It’s never too late to change your path. Whether you’re 20, 30, 40, 60, or 85, you can still change your life. A friend of mine recently told me that she was getting divorced. I told her life was too short to be unhappy, and here’s what she said: “actually, life is too LONG to be unhappy.” I won’t ever forget that. Do you want to spend the next 30 years at your current job? In your current relationship? In your current town/home/life? Wanting to be happy doesn’t make you ungrateful or weak. Stop listening to people who tell you otherwise.
Sometimes life is hard. Your version of hard and another person’s version of hard may not always align, but if you’re struggling, you’re struggling. Stop apologizing or feeling guilty. Perhaps you have a healthy baby who won’t sleep at night. It’s okay to feel frustrated and tired and shitty and pissed, even though there’s another woman out there praying for a baby. It doesn’t make your journey less than.
There’s more to life than Instagram likes. In the blog world we’re constantly pressured to post a certain number of times a day. We should blog a certain number of times a week. Reply to comments quickly. Social media and blogging will come and go. Those things don’t matter.
When you say yes to something, you say no to other things. And it’s okay to say “no” to the things you don’t want to do.
Ask for what you want. At work. In relationships. In life. If you don’t get it, maybe that’s your answer.
There’s no “right” way to live. You don’t have to have a conventional career or family or life. Or you can. As long as it brings you joy, that’s all that matters.
Don’t let anything hold you back. Hurtful words. Your weight. Your age. Credit score. Bank account. Find a way to move forward.
Here’s to a wonderful year.
Thank you for your support this year – I appreciate all of you!