Many of us made resolutions or goals at the start of the new year, but how do we succeed? If you’re anything like me, you have lots of plans and ideas and hopes and dreams that never come to fruition. Why can’t we make it happen?
I have to be honest with you – I’m a pretty negative person. Sometimes. Some days I’m in the best mood and feel like I can take on the world. And some days you better not cross me. It’s for your own good. My moods have a lot to do with the weather. Like everyone else, I crave sunshine. These cloudy, cold winter days do me in. Exercise and eating well make a difference too, of course. But the biggest influence on my mood is the people in my life: if you’re around negative people, you’re going to be negative, too.
While I don’t like to discuss my job here, I will say that I am surrounded by a lot of negativity. There are lots of “woe is me” discussions and hurt feelings and paranoia and overworked employees and the list goes on and on. I spend the majority of my week at work and it’s hard to drown out the noise. I struggle to maintain positive thoughts when I’m surrounded by the opposite all day long – it’s like a dark cloud hangs over my work week. By Friday I’m feeling okay, but by the time Sunday rolls around, the scaries set in and my anxiety starts all over. I cannot turn off my mind, and, to quote Liz Lemon, “I lie awake at night wondering what fresh hell tomorrow will bring me.” Not the best outlook.
But I’m actively trying to improve my attitude this year. It’s a work in progress. But one thing that’s certainly helped is drowning out the toxicity and surrounding myself with uplifting, kind people. I was having a low day last week, and a text from Sheryl turned my entire week around. We both have a desire to be intentional in meeting our goals this year, and I’m so happy to have her as a positive influence and accountability partner. A simple, positive text inspired me to turn my ideas into action. There are wonderful people out there who want you to succeed. You just have to find them.
Where am I going with this? Until you extricate yourself from a shitty situation, no amount of self-help books, praying, meditating, or essential oils diffusing will help you. And, if you’re in a situation like me where the negativity is part of your every day life, find a positive accountability partner like Sheryl. Or your mom. Or significant other. Or me. Find good people. Those who cheer for you, those in your corner, those willing to give and lift and support. Get rid of the toxic ones – the ones who like to tell you that you can’t do big things. The ones who hate everything and put limitations on you. Sign off Facebook. Unfriend people who do not bring you joy. Stop surrounding yourself with people who do not bring you joy. We all go through bad days, months, years, but you’ll never crawl out if you keep letting negativity win. Remind yourself that you can do and be and conquer it all. If you want to truly be successful this year (in whatever capacity), make this your first step.