I took a break from posting Monday – anyone else feeling uninspired lately?
I’m mostly good at keeping my shit together, but, everyone throws a fit sometimes.
I had a meltdown of sorts last week. It wasn’t over one particular thing: work was fine. Life was fine. Was just a day of not feeling like enough. Do you ever have those days?
I’d imagine we all struggle with this on occasion. Days where nothing fits and your hair is a mess and you’re broke and work sucks and the last good thing that happened to you was winning $2 from Kentucky Lottery. Days when you can’t get your shit together and run behind schedule and spill coffee and eat vending machine chips for lunch.
Of course, I felt guilty after my tantrum, as I always do. I’m healthy and happy and have a job and a great family and relationship. Why feel down? Because I sometimes forget that everyone else has those days, too.
We preach a lot about lifting others up, not comparing, and not harboring jealousy. And I think those things are wildly important. But life can be shitty. Sometimes you’re working your ass off and sacrificing and struggling and trying and you’re stuck in the same place that you were a year ago. And then you hear of your friend’s promotion or book deal or engagement or baby or whatever it is and you have a moment of “why not me?” It is okay to be happy for someone else and be sad for yourself.
In the world of social media, it takes a brave person to admit that their days aren’t perfect. That they’ve faced setbacks and disappointments. It’s not a subject many of us willingly discuss. Who wants to admit that they received a promotion after sacrificing time with their families? Who wants to admit that they got engaged after issuing an ultimatum to their partner? Who wants to admit unhappiness and long hours and code issues and debt and heartbreak? It’s easy to get caught up in the inauthenticity of it all.
When those feelings creep in, it’s imperative to remind yourself that we’re all out here fighting. We have moments when our jeans don’t fit, when there’s more month at the end of our paycheck, when cars won’t start, when we shouldn’t have eaten that Thai food, when we fight with those we love most. And that’s when you especially need positivity – remember the things that make you feel happy and alive. Occasionally it takes someone else reminding you of your gifts, and that’s okay, too. Whilst in the depths of my self-pity last week, a co-worker said this to me (unprompted): “You always try to make everyone feel special.” It was one of the sincerest and best compliments I’ve ever received, and it immediately brought me back to earth. I don’t have a million dollars and I’m struggling to lose weight and my house is not clean but I’m good at making others feel special. That’s all I needed to pull myself out of my mood.
Tell me: how do you get out of a rut? Any tips?