Over the weekend, a blogger I follow shared on Instagram that she and her family were evacuating their home to escape Irma. She linked her outfit on liketoknowit in the post. I’ll admit that at first glance I found it a bit tacky. But then I read her response to a keyboard warrior and it changed my mind: even in the midst of a devastating hurricane, this woman has to make money for her family.
Why are we so judgmental when it comes to how other women make money? Would people have judged or jumped on her if she had a different profession? Unless you’re stealing or harming another person, why should I care? A friend told me once how she paid bills during a particularly rough time and it absolutely floored me. I couldn’t comprehend it because luckily my life has never known that level of hardship. I have a good job and a family I can lean on if times get tough. My sister and brother-in-law are currently staying with my parents to escape Irma: they had a place to go and their bills are covered. Not everyone will be that fortunate.
I get paid to be a technical writer. That’s how I contribute to my household. It’s how I pay my student loans, and car payment, and maintain a full pantry. But that doesn’t mean that I am better than anyone. That’s just how I make my living. Some work at McDonald’s. Some are bloggers. Some sell essential oils or jewelry or skincare. They are not less-than. We all have a common goal, and that is to provide for ourselves or our families. Our goal is to survive and thrive.
I was reading a book and one passage stuck out to me: in order to really change your life, to make money, to be your best self, you have to get uncomfortable. You will not get a new job if you pretend you’re content at your current one. You won’t make money if you are afraid to put yourself out there. If you’re afraid to share affiliate links. If you’re afraid to start a side-hustle. If you’re afraid to write your book or sell candles. You have to get a little dirty if you want to succeed. I often think about that in the blog world. There are a lot of judgmental ladies out there – myself included – who don’t agree with/frown upon how other bloggers make money. A friend told me last week that she knows a blogger who makes $16,000 a month off affiliate links. You guys. That blew my mind. Good on her, you know? And who’s to say that can’t be you or me?
Why shouldn’t you make money while you can? I work for the government and we’re being told that we might lose our retirement. Thankfully I’m not too entrenched in my young(ish) age, but, if I can possibly make that much money and save and pay off our debt, then WHY wouldn’t I? And why shouldn’t you, if that’s what you want to do? If sharing sponsored content is how I save for retirement, are you right to criticize me?
The point of my ramble is this: let’s stop making it our business how everyone makes a living. Whether they sell LuLaRoe, or oils, or real estate, or cars, or share affiliate links, or work at Burger King, or Starbucks, or do makeup, or clean houses, or practice law or medicine, we’re all doing the best we can while we’re here. We’re all trying to keep food on the table and the electricity rolling. We can’t shit on people because their lives look different than ours. And don’t be afraid to get uncomfortable. Start your podcast. Sell your art. Offer consulting services. Live your life.