Happy Holidays, friends! I hope you all had a wonderful Christmas. We’re in Hilton Head (God-willing!) so I’ll be back next week with a recap of our holiday.
I don’t really make “resolutions” because as the pigeon lady says in Home Alone 2: “don’t make promises you can’t keep.” These aren’t resolutions and they’re not lofty, predictable goals that I won’t achieve (lose 60 pounds! Save $40,000! Stay organized!). But if you do have those resolutions, you.go.girl.
These are three goals we all need to work on in order to achieve a better life. If you’re already doing these then I salute you! I’m certainly not, but I cannot have a happy and fulfilling 2018 without them:
Take care of your health: I mean that in every sense of the word. Eat less junk. Drink less booze. Exercise. Rest. Sleep. Go to the gynecologist and dermatologist and optometrist. Get pap smears and, depending on age, mammograms and colonoscopies. Do self-breast exams. Monitor your blood pressure. Get a physical. Did you know most of these are covered in your insurance under preventative care? Many of these appointments might not cost you a dime. Take care of your mental health. Seek therapy or medication or whatever makes you feel whole. Meditate. Rid yourself of toxic relationships (whether it be with family, friends, yourself, food, your phone, etc.). Find a job that doesn’t crush your soul. Buy a better mattress and shoes.
Be kinder to others. One of my biggest flaws is being hard on others, and, as J says, it’s because I’m so hard on myself. I hold myself to impossibly high standards, and I unfairly place those same expectations on others. We truly have no clue what others face day to day. A person’s life can seem perfect on social media, but they could be abused or depressed or a prisoner of their own minds. There have been hundreds of times when I’ve been jealous or judgmental of someone I had no idea was struggling. We could all use a little more love. Try to give others the same grace you wish they’d give to you.
Be kinder to yourself. You can’t give others grace if you’re not willing to do the same for yourself. You’re going to make mistakes. You’re going to be late or forget to pay a bill or drink too much wine on a Tuesday night. You’re going to snap at your significant other or kids or friend or the dog. The bed will be unmade, laundry will be left in the washer or dryer for days, you’ll eat pizza for dinner all week. You’ll gain 5 pounds. Or 10. Or 20. You’ll forget to text and email people back. We’re human and we’re all trying to stay afloat. That’s all you can ask for some days. Before bed every night, congratulate yourself on making it through another day of the madness.
What goals would you add?
Happy New Year. Thank you all for your support and love throughout 2017. I hope 2018 is your best year yet!